Well…….I’m at the tail end of this thing called parenting. The third of 3 boys is about to graduate high school. Yet I find the stress of parenting to be so much more so than when they were little. Perhaps it is because the decisions they make now are – or can be – so life-changing. I’m thankful for the gospel, for the key component of the plan of salvation (the plan of HAPPINESS) ….free agency! I find it odd that it – this “free agency” – is something that I demand for myself and yet struggle so deeply with letting it go to my boys. Perhaps my anxiety comes from not being sure I’ve taught them everything they need to know or that I could have, should have done something more\different\better….something?
“Our anxiety does not come from thinking about the future, but from wanting to control it.” Kahlil Gibran
I know, I recognize my wanting to save them from (what I perceive as) potential mistakes, is my need to control an undesirable outcome. I hope they know and recognize also, that it is my love for them – however misguided.
So, with all this upcoming time on my hands, I make an honest vow to TRY and let go. I hear, as I type, the laughter of those that know me best…..but really…..I’m going to try to follow our Savior’s lead on this whole “free agency” thing!
“Love is the ability and willingness to allow those that you care for, to be what they choose for themselves, without any insistence that they satisfy you.” Wayne Dyer
Please take a minute to read the following post by Dennis Prager.
When we say that people are “equal,” surely we don’t mean that people are “the same.” Nor are human relationships “equal” in the sense that they are all “the same.” While the “worth” of the individuals in both types of relationships is certainly “equal,” the relationships are in fact fundamentally different.
I like what he is saying……although – my only hang up is how does the constitution support this? If we believe that the government should let us practice religion without interference then the LDS church should not have concern of being forced to marry gay couples…..correct? Am I being naive?
But then again….where do you stop with civil unions/marriages being equal and fair. Can a ‘threesome’ say they want to be married or the poligamists…hey what about incest? At what point do you not put ‘qualifying’ verbage into play?
I love this quote by Rick Warren…..
“Our culture has accepted two huge lies. The first is that if you disagree with someone’s lifestyle, you must fear or hate them. The second is that to love someone means you agree with everything they believe or do. Both are nonsense. You don’t have to compromise conviction to be compassionate.”
Respecting that we will all have differing opinions and degrees of conviction, here’s hoping we all remain compassionate!
It can get a little old don’t you think……….that constant nagging or negativity that says “I should’ve, could’ve or would’ve”? Wanting to obtain perfection and when we fall short, the thought crosses our mind – “Why do I even try?” We start to compare ourselves to others, magazines or hollywood portrayed perfection. I at times become too concerned with what the ‘world’ must think or judge of me when in reality it is my Heavenly Father’s opinion I should consider most and certainly more often than I do.
I came across this wonderfully written sermon of sorts on a blog that I follow. I have copied a portion of it below with well….’permission’ along the lines of asking forgiveness later if it’s really not ok. Add that, I suppose, to my list of faults!
“I recognize that I am more than the sum of my faults, and I have the patience and wisdom to admit that I am a work in progress. I do not simply submit to my sin, surrendering to the assumption that it will always be with me, but I am also gentle enough to know that to become holy takes time.
The balance is delicate. I fight myself daily on the one hand, while consoling myself daily on the other. This is what virtue is, after all – to pursue excellence, understanding that excellence is the mean between two extremes, but never mediocrity. Thus, I do not give up. As St. Paul encourages, I run so as to win.”
You really ought to go to my blog roll to Dennis’ Ranch and read it in whole. Put down what you’re doing – let go for a minute – and be enlightened!
Although Jody is a ‘bit’ younger than I am – I grew up with her older siblings. We did Jr. Possee, High School Rodeo, 4H – horse stuff! Check out the video……..she’s been running a nice mare and doing really well – but there is a reason we do this when we are younger! :)
Seriously – I don’t recall my childhood being anything but pretty normal and well…..good! I mean, I remember asking my mom to write my list of chores so I didn’t have to have them given piece meal….she complied and I was her best housekeeper (don’t ask me what’s happened now at my own home :( ) But I tell you, as of late – any time I ask Bug to do anything he ho-hums and moooomm - whine! UGH! He reminds me of Eeyour on Winne the Pooh. The older boys swear we are spoiling him (we kinda are) but I think they had their moments of “poor me” as well. So……this thought is for him and all the other picked on 15 year olds out there -
Just remember — if the world didn’t suck, we would all fall off!
Quiet, unassuming, respectful. Loved it!
There is in every true woman’s heart a spark of heavenly fire, which lies dormant in the broad daylight of prosperity; but which kindles up and beams and blazes in the dark hour of adversity.
So bug has been bugging the ol’ boy to build a boat. Although he’s done quite a bit of small wood working projects….a boat was – well just a little more than either of them had in mind. But wanting to do the ‘father/son’ thing they set out to making the barge.. or I mean boat. LOL
Now, I tease with all the love in my heart because I know Bug is pretty proud of the….boat. They were anxious to take it for a test run and could not wait for the lakes to thaw so we headed over to Wilde’s pond in which one half was indeed ready for the launch.
I did take a spin…..litterally as the butt’s thought it was really funny to get us spinning and ‘tipping’ from side to side. Thought I might hurl!!!!
Anyway – they are kinda cute….even in a redneck sort way. Oh and ingenious too – when up a creek without a paddle………use your shovels :0) You can check out the pics in the Flickr sidebar.